Come vs Cum: a vocabulary discussion

Jan. 12th, 2026 11:21 pm
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You'll have picked up that there's a lot of sex in the show (and book) Heated Rivalry. And, unsurprisingly, there's a lot in the fanfic.

And one thing I'm having to deal with is a bunch of otherwise perfectly readable authors referring to "cum". It almost knocks me out of the mood, but not quite.

Having issues about spelling come as cum is doubtless linked with me being older than dirt and having learned English not just in school but from reading a hell of a lot of novels (before sinking without trace into fanfic). And I probably associate cum with porn dialogue, so that's partly an embarrassment thing, and partly me being a snob.

Anyway, I did some research on the interwebs and the most frequent viewpoint is:
  • cum is the noun
  • come is the verb
From etymonline.com, cum dates from 1973, initially used as a noun and mostly in porn, now used more widely and as both a noun and verb. Come is obviously a lot older, but as a synonym for ejaculating it seems to date from the 1500-1600s, and as semen, from the 1920s.

Which is all very well, but I just have a visceral dislike of the word cum. I'm going "ew, gross", like Shane when people use the term "lovers". It looks like a spelling mistake to me, and I doubt I'll ever use it in a fic except in a fake porn video title. So that leaves me stubbornly using come, or writing in a way that avoids the word altogether, because I am also not going to use "semen" or (worse) "ejaculate", except in very specific circumstances. Not to mention "reach completion" or "climax". Nope. Slang terms like jizz, spunk and spooge are sometimes okay in dialogue though, or in the pov of characters where it wouldn't be ooc.

What about you: come or cum? Enquiring minds want to know! Don't feel limited to its use in Heated Rivalry - this applies in most fandoms, and in some profic, I bet.

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B+

Fundamentals of Being a Good Girl

by Julie Murphy
January 13, 2026 · Avon
Contemporary Romance

I read this book in snatched moments and stolen hours and I adored it. It features tropes that I’m not all that interested in: single dad, nanny x boss, and small town romance, but the writing is so immersive and rich that these didn’t feel like familiar tropes. They felt original and fresh. Like this was the first nanny on the planet to fall in love with her boss. THAT original.

But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Maddie has a law degree under her belt and four years as the girlfriend of a political hopeful. She has pruned herself to fit into what her boyfriend needs her to be. Only her efforts aren’t good enough and she gets dumped by the campaign manager (partly because she is fat).

She starts afresh at Astra University (based in a small town in Missouri) as an adjunct professor and a nanny on the side. Her first night in town is her 26th birthday and she celebrates at a local dive bar where she meets Bram, a supremely tall and hot ecology professor. They have sex in the empty flat above the bar numerous times.

Only, who rings Bram’s doorbell the next day as his new nanny? Why, of course, it is Maddie. The two decide that nothing can happen, but oh, how delicious the sexual tension is. It’s filthy and I loved it. Of course, the detente doesn’t last long and soon they’re going to bone town all over the place. There is a tremendous amount of sex in this book but it is so gloriously lush in emotion and growth (ahem, apologies) that it was clearly a fulfilling part of the story. Crucial to the story even. If you remove the sex, you’d remove a big chunk of the emotional development for both parties.

Aside from all the sex, there is a great deal of growth and self-reflection that Maddie goes through. She’s been pruning herself for so long that she’s no longer sure what a Maddie shape even is. This book is about her rediscovering herself and charting a new path forward. But does that path forward include a very settled man with a full life of his own at 35?

Okay, so the dad stuff. I confess that despite being a parent myself, I usually hate reading about parents. Mostly because I find so few people can write kids well. The dialogue seems either too advanced or too simplistic or too stilted. In this book, there are three children. There’s Fern, the 17 year old who is a great kid and interesting to read about and then two six year old twins who feel real if only because dialogue is limited and constant motion is present. They’re a whirlwind in the way that only young kids can be. So for kid-parent skeptics like me, this book gets the green light.

Bram is a part of a group of friends that call themselves the Andromeda Club. They’re all such great, interesting people and I absolutely loved my time with them. The banter! The love! The snappy dressing (for some)! The injokes! Their friendship has it all.

Speaking of in-jokes. Make sure you read the footnotes present in this book. They really add to the enjoyment of the full story and if you ignore them some in-jokes won’t make sense.

For people with strong views on the third-act breakup as a trope, all is revealed in this spoiler.

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Yes, there is a third-act breakup.

Okay in the next spoiler I unpack what was revealed in the first spoiler and why it fell a bit flat for me.

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It’s almost inevitable given just how many sensible reasons there are for the relationship not to work out. The break up is brutal for Bram especially and it hurt my heart to read it. Maddie is adamant that the relationship between them can’t work. The alleged epiphany she has that it can in fact work and is actually what she wants didn’t feel all that startling to me. I needed it to be more of an a-ha moment to justify the huge amount of pain she caused Bram. It’s the only part of the book that fell a bit flat for me.

It’s a pity that the slightly flat moment came at the end. They then tend to linger with me rather than get washed away by the general greatness of the book. Despite that moment of bleurgh, I heartily recommend this book to the Bitchery and I shall absolutely be reading more by this author duo.

Shockingly good advice from Hariette

Jan. 12th, 2026 04:33 am
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DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and I were raised in the same household by the same parents, yet as adults we have two very different views of our father. I see my dad as someone who worked hard, showed up in the ways he could and consistently supported us throughout our lives. I'm deeply grateful for him and everything he's done. My brother, on the other hand, seems to carry a lot of resentment. Whenever the subject of our dad comes up, he focuses on his shortcomings and disappointments, often listing ways he feels let down or overlooked. Listening to this has become exhausting and painful for me. It feels like he's erasing the good and ignoring the sacrifices our dad made, and I can't help but hear it as ungratefulness. At the same time, I don't want to dismiss my brother's experience or silence his truth just because it differs from mine. How do I respect his feelings without sitting through what feels like constant criticism of someone I love? -- Oh, Brother

As always, we grade her on a curve because she's usually so terrible )

Catalogue check (2024) update

Jan. 12th, 2026 04:58 pm
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I've managed to winkle out some of the books that didn't get spotted while I was doing the catalogue check in 2024 (which finished, for logistics reasons, in about February 2025).

And I've just looked at the number of tags that I have (>2K) and decided that is ridiculous. The first pass I'm doing is changing all the old location tags to [year] - last seen (not the 'unchecked/not yet seen' ones, those I'm going to think about some more). Because where any book was in 2021 (etc) is obviously not right, or I would have found it there in 2024. Once I've done that for all years prior to 2024, I'm going to go poke at the various 'unchecked' tags and see what is there.

other things I've noticed that I want to reorder

  • mythology should be mythology - [country]
  • awards should be awards: [name]
  • I have juvenile and kids and junior fiction and possibly some others, as well as a set of age: [...] categories; need to think what I want to do here.

Diversity

Jan. 12th, 2026 02:48 am
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Mattel adds an autistic Barbie to doll line

NEW YORK -- Mattel Inc. is introducing an autistic Barbie on Monday as the newest member of its line intended to celebrate diversity, joining a collection that already includes Barbies with Down syndrome, a blind Barbie, a Barbie and a Ken with vitiligo, and other models the toymaker added to make its fashion dolls more inclusive.
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For example, the eyes of the new Barbie shift slightly to the side to represent how some people with autism sometimes avoid direct eye contact, he said. The doll also was given articulated elbows and wrists to acknowledge stimming, hand flapping and other gestures that some autistic people use to process sensory information or to express excitement, according to Mattel.

Choices (8)

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:41 am
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The arrangements that were possible

It was very gratifying, Julius Roberts considered, to be warmly welcomed entirely in the capacity of an esteemed fellow scientist at the Oxford Botanic Garden! For although he had made some several visits to Oxford over the years – been desired to look over various College gardens – perchance examine some manuscript account compiled by a Fellow in past time – he had ever had a somewhat uneasy feeling that he owed that hospitality to the connexions made by way of the club for fellows of the disposition in Town. And mayhap because he was known a close friend of Beauf – Lord Sallington!

But it was very pleasant to talk botany and plants and hothouses and this fine matter of bringing a historic garden into more modern ways and not to feel that his interlocutors’ thoughts were also upon his lovely dusky arse. Sure Chumball, and others of his set, never went be encroaching, but one could not ignore that there was a certain yearning in the air!

It was also agreeable to be away from the purlieux of Nitherholme and Fendersham Hall. It had been tiresome enough when Drew Fendersham and his cronies had been quite running wild about the countryside with their hound-trails and other pursuits – there had even been a midnight steeplechase or two, one was exceedingly relieved that there had been no broken necks. But now Lord Fendersham himself had returned – Elthorne, the hermit of the moors, that had at one time had a classical education, had chuckled and remarked, did not one mind upon Odysseus expelling the suitors from Ithaca?

While there was also an anticipation that Beauf would shortly be coming to Nitherholme: 'twould doubtless be a family party, with his father the Duke and very like his stepmother and assorted brothers, to support the Whig interest about the place.

Indeed, the place became a little desolate, not only lacking Beauf’s company while he was in Town about being a dutiful son and elder brother, but now that Polly Fendersham had finally left for Peru. He had been a little tempted himself to that jaunt – fancied that the Spanish Americas were a deal less perilous for one with some degree of African ancestry than the United States! – had read fascinating stories in Lord Offgrange’s account of his travels there – but he had work upon hand with his botanical study of the moors –

Besides, 'twould mean a deal of a long while parted from Beauf.

Julius smiled to himself. He would be going to Town, and while he would be staying with his parents, there would be opportunities to meet, even with all this bustling upheaval over the impending election. Especially as he apprehended that Lady Isabella was still recruiting in the country and thus not requiring to be squired around the events of the Season by an elder brother.

Hulloa! Roberts! I did not know you were in Oxford.

Julius blinked and emerged from his brown study, to observe Cuthbert Davison.

Davison! How d’you do? Have just been having a fine convocation at the Botanic Garden.

Ah, one might anticipate they would be glad to draw upon your understandings of plants! – do you stay long in Oxford?

No – go up to Town tomorrow, to assure m’mother the famed Seraphine that I am still in life and health, and not being starved by Mrs Dunstall. But what are you about these days?

Davison glanced from side to side. Why, I have a deal to tell you. How should it be, did I get my college buttery to put me up a pique-nique, and we might take a little excursion on the river? Now term is done 'twill be exceedingly peaceful.

By this, Julius understood that Davison had somewhat to communicate under discretion. And a jaunt on the river sounded a very agreeable way of passing the rest of the day. He nodded. That sounds delightful, he said.

So here they were, and indeed 'twas exceedingly peaceful. Davison turned out quite the water-man – oh, sure, I never turned out for the Eights but I have ever found rowing a pleasant form of exercize –

They came to an agreeable spot where they might moor the boat and be entirely private.

Julius was in no particular worry that Davison was still like to be yearning towards him: there had been a little awkwardness last year, when he had come visit in order to advize on the possibilities of creating a Persian garden at Nitherholme. Julius had occasionally enjoyed discreet brief passages with other men besides Beauf – surely justified by their frequent separations and, moreover, Beauf’s continuing liaison with Flora? – but it had been apparent that Davison was in hopes of rather more.

Indeed, it soon came about to be quite clear that an entirely new prospect had opened though one that did, one must admit, had its own difficulties

Had been convoking with Lady Rondegate over setting certain ghazals that Mrs Lucas had turned into English verse, and the nature of Persian music, and how one might evoke somewhat of that – for one fancied English ears were not yet ready for the full effect – what a talented and intelligent woman was Lady Rondegate – most amiable – exceedingly hospitable – he had become quite an intimate of the household –

And he found himself developing affections towards Rondegate himself – that were, he fancied, reciprocated

Julius nodded. Had been reported that Rondegate had been seen very little at the club of late and one had wondered whether, having married an agreeable wife, he was one that found he was less indifferent to feminine charms than he had supposed? They were, it was given out, a very fond couple, or at least, presented thus in Society.

But who knew better than he the way of these things? Though the matter was rather different when the lady in the triangle was that fiery creature Flora Ferraby, that disdained marriage and lived an independent life with the companionship of his own sister Hannah.

Well, that is a tangle! he said. 'Tis something to think upon – should wish to open the matter to Beau – to Sallington – 'tis a different situation with Merrett I fancy, Asterley is not part of his domestic circle –

I should not in the least wish to distress Her Ladyship, said Davison in anxious tones.

Why, the situation was indeed delicate – was not sure that he himself was the best fellow to advize – but should do what he might for others of the brotherhood. Would never forget the kindness a troubled young Julius had received in Venice from Marcello Traversini, a fine example to follow.

So once he was in Town, and had dispatched certain family dutifulness, including listening to Seraphine advancing the interest of these learned young ladies that there are these days, entire fitted as wives for men of science

Took himself to the club where he was at last able to foregather with Beauf and have a most agreeable reunion. Then went dine together in one of the private rooms so that they might exchange gossip without interruption.

Beauf spent a little while complaining upon the turmoil that this election brought to the family – and here is Bella, of a sudden decides to take an interest in politics and make herself useful, well, I must concede 'tis a boon to have a pair of hands to odd tasks whilst I assist Papa, but she asks questions

Julius grinned, and then gave a little of the news from Nitherholme. Beauf groaned. Shall have to go there, and make agreeable to Fendersham – no Polly, that must still be at sea, not even yet to Panama –

They agreed that they greatly missed her company.

And while I have all this upon hand, here is Rondegate, not only would desire me to come visit Wepperell Larches – that is in a part of the country that I fancy is still give over not only to the Tory interest, but to that part of it that considers Sir Robert an entire Judas – but in a great romantic complication –

Julius revealed that he knew somewhat of that!

Quite devoted to Zipsie – does not in the least sound to be in the Zellens’ situation – dislikes the thought of deceit, but how can one speak of these matters to a nicely-brought up young woman? Takes nothing away from her –

Lord, he went on, 'twas an entire different matter being brought up among the Raxdell House Phalanstery! Gave one a broader notion of the arrangements that were possible was there affection and kindness – along with an understanding of the necessity of discretion in the eyes of Society –

They fell silent. Julius thought of his mother’s considerable affection – not mere loyalty! – towards the late Lord Raxdell – had a fair notion that she had known how matters stood there 'twixt him and MacDonald: but doubted she would welcome any revelation that her own son was of like disposition.

At length Julius ventured that there was no possibility that Lady Rondegate had Sapphic inclinations?

Only, I suspect, towards whichever Muse 'tis that governs music! But she may have some apprehension that they exist – there is another impending trouble over Thea Saxorby being persuaded to sing the settings of certain lyrics by Sappho by that lady whom m’father refers to as that jealous hag Billston, for my aunt Jane, and the matter becoming bruited about –

How very fortunate, Julius remarked, that Lady Theodora’s brother Simon is somewhere on the high seas bound for Peru. But – Wepperell Larches, you say. Rondegate has said somewhat to me about the gardens – sadly neglected – would greatly appreciate my opinion –

Beauf chuckled. From what my aunt Martha tells me of their visit, you would find yourself quite besieged by the local gentry about their gardens and I daresay about what they believe to be some rare orchid that grows in their park –

Julius groaned. 'Tis ever some rare orchid that they wish to boast of. But 'tis an eligible plan – would Lady Rondegate be traveling with him?

I apprehend that she is in such condition that bouncing about in a carriage over the roads in those parts is not advized.

Ah. So, a bachelor party, then.

They looked at one another. At length Beauf said, I daresay one might be obliged to call upon the talents of Lady Bexbury in the matter, but – not just yet.


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Welcome back to Cover Snark!

Say Yes to the Princess by Charis Michaels. A brunette woman in a peach dress is leaning back on a stone bench, braced on her arms. A man in tight black pants and no shirt is leaning over her. Both are very smooth and shiny. He also has a very long neck.

Amanda: This gives me Barbie animated movie vibes.

Sarah: His head is so big, and his neck is so long, and I’m also confused by the size of her head and the length of her arms.

This is giving me the uncanny valley vibes of that one Julie Anne Long Cover – not the smirking git one, the giant head lady one.

This one:

Angel in a Devil's Arms by Julie Anne Long. A blond naked man is in bed in the background with white sheets around his waist. In the foreground, a blonde woman in a yellow dress is leaning against the door jamb. Her head looks big compared to the slimness of her arms and neck.

Sarah: “Head too big, arms too short” will be the name of my podcast about disturbing cover art.

Elyse: That’s similar to my favorite kitten/puppy stage “ears too big, legs too long”

Sarah: His neck is long, right? It’s not just me?

Elyse: I think it’s not long, it’s broken.

Sarah: “How.”
” How what?”
” How did you know that my father was Gumby?”
” Everyone knows your father is Gumby, my lord.”

Elyse: LMAO

Sarah: “I thought we had hidden it.”

“You thought you had hidden your lineage and connection to Lord Gumbert Rubberthwaite, Earl of Stretetshingtonshoreley?”

“Which is pronounced ‘Stretchley?’ Really, you thought that was a secret?”

Elyse: I would read that book.

Behind the Net by Stephanie Archer. An illustrated cover. A man in gray pants and a dark blue hockey jersey is lifting up a woman to rest on the metal portion of a hockey net. She has sandy blond hair, light jeans, and a purple sweater, with slip-on boat shoes.

From Kelly B: One-the title is Behind the Net but they are clearly in front of the net. And two-the physics required to sit on a hockey net like that.

Sarah: This is just awful on so many gravitational and proportional levels.

Amanda: Girl has got to be engaging her core like crazy.

The Countess's Groom by Emily Larkin. A brunette woman in a blue dress is pulling away from a dude with wavy brown hair who is trying to kiss her.

Also from Kelly B: This is the only clinch cover I’ve seen with an active escape attempt by the heroine. Her entire being is recoiling from his pursuit.

Sarah: What is happening. His breath must be deadly.

Shana: She looks like she’s playing dead in the hopes that he will take his horrible breath far far away

Amanda: It’s very similar to the swerve my cats do when I try to kiss their little kitty heads.

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Jan. 11th, 2026 03:23 am
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Dear Eric: My husband has just one sibling, a brother. For many years, we all invited each other to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and other holidays. A few years ago, my brother-in-law and his wife stopped inviting us. (They still invite my husband's parents to everything).

We don't know the reason; there was no fight or misunderstanding or awkward interactions. We in turn no longer invite them to our smaller occasions. Weddings and other big occasions are different; everyone is invited.

However, every time we are celebrating our birthdays or anniversary, my husband starts insisting on inviting his brother. No matter how many times I remind him that they no longer invite us, he says it is still his only sibling and it's important to him that his brother be there.

I refuse to agree to invite them, the only exception I make is for my husband's birthday because that's him we are celebrating so he can invite them if he wants. They attend his birthday but do not reciprocate. It's very weird.

I still cannot figure out why it's important to have people at our table that do not care about seeing us at theirs.

Can you help me formulate a response that would stop my husband from asking me to invite them? Apparently my saying no every time for years and explaining why is not sufficient. I am tired of these arguments, and it does not change anything. I need an ironclad reason that he will agree with.

– Tired of the One-Way Street


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A round fluted plate containing cheese-stuffed Isobeyaki Mochi wrapped with nori seaweed.

Chewy Isobeyaki Mochi with Cheese at home with my quick recipe. Grill Japanese rice cake and add soy sauce, nori, and melty cheese for an umami punch.

READ: Isobeyaki Mochi with Cheese 磯部焼き餅

the personal stuff

Jan. 12th, 2026 03:19 pm
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I had a week off work - I think it was more a "work doesn't want to see full numbers of people back in the office until halfway through January, so if there's anyone who can be taken off the work roster during this time, do it".

Which, I had generally a good week, got some good writing in, managed to rejig the part of Nullifae 1 which had been giving me trouble, and have sorted out the "losing the mentor" part of the story and how we get there. Also, discovered a few things that will be relevant in later books (when we get there). A relief.

On Tuesday, B1 and I went to see the Ashes 5th Test at the Sydney Cricket Ground, had a good day of watching Aussies bat, a couple of hundreds gained, one of my sister's favourite cricketers play what could well have been his last innings (but wasn't), and saw Australia get ahead to the tune of about 230 runs - a nice cushion.

On Monday, we lost a chicken.

tw: not a peaceful going

Carambar was supposed to be one of our 'long-lived' girls. We bought two of a newly-developed heritage breed that were supposed to lay many eggs while still keeping going. It might be that their bloodlines may need a bit more breeding to properly settle, because the first one died with possible neurological issues having never laid an egg, and Carambar only laid for about 12 months before developing complications with laying, and needing a chip to keep her from laying.

She was otherwise perfectly healthy and surviving well. Unfortunately, while both B1 and myself were away from home, the neighbour's dog got out, chased her out of the yard and under the house. When we got her out (after the neighbour came and reclaimed her dog), she had been bitten about the head enough that she was bleeding and injured, and when we got her to the vet it turned out her wing was broken. We didn't have the resources and energy to try to get her back to health, so we had to have her put down.

The neighbour paid for the vet bill, but we're still furious about her dogs. She's nearly 70 and has two bouncing, energetic young spaniel-type dogs that she has always struggled to keep on a leash, and which she's been nice white lady oblivious to anything but her joy in gossipy conversation when walking them. They're probably companionship for her - her son is married, and her daughter self-terminated about 7 years ago - but she's not up to controlling them, and they keep getting out of her place. She's always apologetic, but that doesn't stop the fact that one of our chickens died because of her dogs!


Anyway. That was the start of the week.

By Wednesday the temperatures were rising, by Saturday it was nutso. 42C by 6pm...and then our street power went off. Just our street. *sigh*

A friend invited me over for a swim, and I spent a lovely hour in her pool with her youngest daughter, and then about 20 minutes discussing politics with her husband, brother-in-law, and older daughter. And when I went home, the power was back on again.

Today - first day back at work - has been tiring, but nothing dire. I did go to the gym this morning, and ended up walking 1. I have a call to Jury Duty, but I suspect I can't get out of it this time. Although my boss has just messaged me - apparently contracting is considered 'self-employed', so I might have a chance not to lose 3 months worth of income...

Poem: "The Five Books of Woodslore"

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:45 pm
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Poem: "The Five Books of Woodslore"

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:41 pm
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This poem was written outside the regular prompt calls. It fills the "In the Wilderness" square in my 1-1-25 card for the Public Domain Day Bingo fest. It was sponsored by a pool with [personal profile] fuzzyred.

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Writing Goals/Calendar: 2026/January

Jan. 11th, 2026 10:00 pm
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I definitely feel like I’m struggling a little bit to figure out what I’m hoping to get out of 2026 in terms of writing.

I’m not very satisfied with what 2025 looked like. I didn’t finish anything, and I didn’t even get much done in terms of planning for future projects. I worked on one WIP for a while, before deciding there was so much I felt needed fixing/reworking that it wasn’t worth continuing as it was. I did have one burst of hyperfocused enthusiasm midway through the year that led to me really wanting to make a plan, and push through, and Do The Thing (and especially to put energy into some original works)… but the burst didn’t last, and I didn’t manage to capitalize on it as fully as I wish I would have. Toward the later part of the year there was at least some progress on planning a different WIP, but it was slow-going, and still isn’t done.

2024 wasn’t much better. I struggled badly until I finally finished an editing project for a friend (which I fear WAS too little too late; she responded with one additional chapter fairly quickly, which I was able to do a much better turnaround on, but then she pretty well ghosted me on the project after, which I still feel terrible about.) After that, I finally managed to finish some lingering fics of my own… but after completing those, I struggled to find anything else that grabbed my attention. I spent months kind of half-heartedly prodding at plot bunnies, but never really settling on anything to focus on, which persisted into 2025.

2022 - 2023 were better writing years for me, but that feels sadder and sadder the farther away from them I get, haha.




I did set myself a goal (via [community profile] getyourwordsout and [community profile] inkingitout) of 75000 words again for this year. I surpassed that goal last year, though it was primarily on non-fiction writing. While I still plan to count my non-fiction writing (book reviews, other effort-ful writing), I am hoping that more of my total words will be fiction again.

My other tentative goal, set as part of my 2026 intentions, is to finish something. That doesn’t mean it has to be shareable (I’m still iffy about sharing any original works), but I’d like something to feel finished.

Trying to set some more specific goals… that’s where I’m floundering. In part, I think I’m having a hard time determining what a realistic schedule looks like for me. I am trying to up my reading goals, and want to try and be a bit more participatory in communities and things here. I’ve said all of that before, but all the intentions in the world haven’t overcome the fact that my hours in the day are limited! Deciding that somehow I am going to be social and participatory every day AND write 1000 words every day AND read at least 150+ pages every day… just leads to me struggling to do any of it.

I haven’t written anything yet this year (in terms of fiction). I need to get reoriented in the outlining I was doing, and resume that. Again, time and energy are a struggle. I’m frustrated that it feels SO SLOW… while also knowing that it only is slow because I’m being slow! If I was putting more time into it and making it a priority, then it’d go a lot faster… but if I prioritized that, I’d never keep up on posts here, never get through the comments I want to, and probably would have to slow down how much I’m reading as well. I also don’t want to give up time I spend with Alex in the evenings, even when we’re just watching stuff together or reading or whatnot.

(For a while last year I tried to sort of “schedule” different priorities for different days, like “I will spend time on DW three days a week, and focus just on writing two days a week…” but it didn’t really work as intended. I guess it worked as long as literally nothing else ever came up, haha. Too often, something would derail a particular day, and then I’d feel incapable of catching up, and stressed as I tried to decide between sacrificing the next day to “make it up” or just letting the derailed thing remain undone.)

So… if I’m not going to have writing be a top priority - not that I don’t want to prioritize it at all, just sort of admitting that it’s a middle priority, not a top three - then I need to figure out what a realistic goal looks like.

For now… my goal for the month is to get back into outlining that particular WIP, and perhaps even finishing that outline!

An unexpected revelation

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:56 pm
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Had a person wander into the 2nd floor corridor looking for the women's washroom. Alas, our 2nd floor women's washroom stopped being functional this week end so all I had to offer was three gender neutral washrooms... one of which is usually the men's.

Then it occurred to me the corridor she came from is from the "new" part of Hagey, the accounting section. While she was hesitating, looking unhappy at the choices offered, I asked if that was where she was from. She said yes, so I told her that section has a very nice (zero barrier) women's on the main floor. Off she went.

Once she was gone, it struck me as odd that she would wander as far as old Hum looking for a washroom.t.

I mentioned this to my supervisor and yeah, apparently because it's an expansion of Hagey, it didn't have to have all the amenities an independent building of the same size would have to have. Thus the comparative lack of washrooms, and a total lack of elevators.

Writerly Ways

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:50 pm
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I don't have much. Today was frustrating. My power went out every 10-15 minutes from 9-2, just flicked on and off but every time it interrupted me trying to make sure my online class components were ready so I had to go to work to do it. I've spiraled down into a pretty big depressive episode today.

I know I was going to talk about open calls etc so let me ask you this, those of you using Duotrope, do you like it? Is it worth the money? I'm giving it hard consideration because too many open calls are going the theater audition route i.e. they post acceptances to duotrope only.

I have two dozen short stories that I think are decent enough to try and find a home for so I need better ways of finding markets. If you don't use duotrope, what do you use? What do you like about it? Thanks

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Baldur's Gate 3: Taviana

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:44 pm
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Ages ago, I said that I was going to start making posts about my various OCs in video game playthroughs since I mainly play TTRPGs. And then, you know, I never actually did it. So, since I actually managed to spend most of yesterday and today playing Baldur's Gate 3, let's talk about the playthrough that I focused on. Minor spoilers for early Act 3 and a few very, very broad ones for Acts 1-2.

Meet Taviana.



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