trying to organise a weekend away

May. 13th, 2026 04:51 pm
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I'm trying to organise a weekend away, first weekend in June. Only had the idea last week, sent an email out, got about a half-dozen interested people, but the price of accomodation is going to be the sticking point.

Just sent out another email to check budgets, will have to wait to hear back. I'm pretty sure at least two women, and at least one couple will come - their finances are reasonably in order. The others... I'm not sure.

Oh well, if it all collapses, I could drag a couple of friends out maybe. Just do a day trip on the Saturday instead maybe.

Ne 'z in ket da gorolliñ

May. 12th, 2026 11:38 pm
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After more than seven months out of work, the degree to which I can afford anything above the bottom rung of Maslow has become truly minimal, but as soon as I discovered Quinquis' eor (2025), a shape-shiftingly electronic, primarily Breton-language album of mermaids and the sea, I leapt for it like it was mackerel. I heard first the all-night love-churn of "Morwreg" (2024), but the irresistible drag sirens of "Dec'h" (2025) sealed the deal.

The copy of Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld's Duck! Rabbit! (2009) which I sent my godchild for his first solstice was familially referred to for years as Baby's First Wittgenstein. I have no idea what Wittgenstein would have made of this cartoon, but I'm impressed.

I am not sure that I am much more than physically extant at the minute. I am clearing the refrigerator and the countertops. I am absorbing as much sunlight as I sleeplessly can. Yesterday kicked off with a doctor's appointment that was too early in the morning to be as unhelpful as it was and only dropped the bar from there, so this afternoon I made sure to secure a half-dozen donuts from the reliable Lyndell's and eat a jam-filled one as soon as I had finished walking home. The neighborhood smelled like alternating drifts of lilac and mulch. I have had the same headache since the weekend and am hoping it is related to the sexing of the trees. The nine o'clock advent of leafblowers to our block was inhumane.

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May. 13th, 2026 10:50 am
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(this is dated 2025-10-05; I suspect I had plans to write more or edit it down, but I no longer care)

Today I got to completely baffle another non-binary individual (I'll call them Q). Because I have a simplified explanation for gender that I trot out as a 101 explanation when I'm not in a situation to actually do the proper couple of hours Ally Training spiel.

In this explanation, I get my new ally to think of a graph (in person there is a lot of hand waving around), where across the bottom is how much someone considers them self to be a woman - at the left, 0%, at the right, 100%. And likewise, up the side is male, where at the bottom is 0% and the top 100%. And I said that lots of women might put themselves right at the bottom right. But that say, someone who is a tomboy might still think of themself as 100% woman, but maybe 10% man. And yes, I get that I'm doing some dodgy things about defining femininity here; the person I was talking to is in their late 70s or early 80s, and while they absolutely are an ally, they haven't ever had to think about this.

But my explanation kept being interrupted as Q kept going 'what'? They truly were expecting me to explain using a line, with man on one end and woman on the other. They had a moment of 'are you treating these as independent variables'? And I was yes. yes I am. Because how much 'man' I feel on any given day appears to be completely independent of how much 'woman' I feel on any given day. And yes, actually, I agree that it is more accurately an n-dimensional whatsit (Q is doing a PhD in mathematics, they understand so much more math than I). But this is what works when I only have a little bit of time to explain.

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I went to the LA Phil website to print out my ticket for the concert I'm attending later this month. When I got to the "show barcode" command, I clicked on it, and it said "Please wait" and continued to say that for the next five hours. I tried a different browser; same result.

Eventually the customer service number woke up for the day and I called them. The agent responded to my attempt to print the ticket by saying we don't advise printing tickets; the barcodes might not be legible to the scanners. I said, "In that case, why do you enforce this by making the website hang up on 'Please wait' for five hours?" And instead of responding, "We don't; I don't know why you're having trouble with this, but it's not our intention and I'm sorry it's happening," which would have been both true and kindly, she said, "I'm not responsible for any problems." I said yes you are; you are a person designated by the LA Phil to answer the phone with customer problems, so therefore you are responsible for dealing with them. That forthright answer may have been the reason why she shortly hung up on me.

Bad move. That only makes me call back in towering anger and demand to speak to a supervisor. The supervisor promised to listen to the tape of the previous call and have a talk with the responsible agent; but he also said that the LA Phil feels no obligation to facilitate printing of bar codes because these days most people have smartphones. I said "most people" leaves out the large number who don't, and is a studied insult to their existence. He said he didn't mean to insult anybody - if true, that's a greater condemnation than if he did intend to insult them - but he's had lots of experience and not allowing printing is not a problem. I said I've had plenty of experience with other venues, and they all offer printing out tickets as an option. I said that maybe we're not as technologically advanced in the Bay Area as you are in L.A. (a truly sarcastic remark, coming from the heart of Silicon Valley where I live), but we manage to allow printing of tickets and have no problem scanning them on the day. Maybe he should see about fixing the website so that it offers a printable ticket. Perhaps not very many people will need that option, but they do exist and will be grateful. I doubt I got my point across.

He did come up with a technical reason for probably why I'd had trouble accessing the bar code, and then offered to switch my ticket to will call, waiving the added fee usually associated with this. He said that option should have been available when I bought the ticket, but it was not. A list of possible ways to get your ticket was one of the steps, but that list had only one option: online download. So I was stuck.

Modern Western

May. 13th, 2026 12:03 am
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So, I don't think I have a time note for the last time I was at Tech Squares. I know it was pre-2020, I think Austin and I went to two Easthills together, which probably would've been 2018 and 2019. I don't think we were regularly going to class when we did the latter of those. So yeah, it's been about eight years since I've been going remotely regularly, but Eric saw me at NEFFA and was all "so I'm running the class this semester and we haven't had a grand march in ages, I'd love to have them again".

It was a nice evening and I'm glad I went! I also think I'm gonna be pretty happy to go to tech squares twice a year for graduation and not any more often than that.

I'm thrilled that this random first-time-in-nearly-a-decade for me happened to coincide with Tenest's first-time-in-over-a-decade. Both of us have the calls still there, but it was fun to support each other through the squares, and do a little necessary flailing.

It was _really_ interesting to see what I did and didn't remember. I had dug out ~my~ graduation folder, with each week's call lists still dutifully tucked in order in there. (Somewhere I still have a little sticky note reading "you are perfect* *in attendance and other ways", from my own class folder). I didn't like. Fully read and internalize every single call, but I skimmed the names of all of them and tried to see what that triggered.

One of the things I really like about Squares is the patter of callbacks and call-actions, back and forth with Ted. "Spin the Top?!" we say, in increasingly histrionic tones, and he blithely replies "yeah, that's what I said, right?". Snap on trade by, toot-toot for track two, zoom is 02134, and it's oppa dixie style. I was _thrilled_ to hear someone say "like bunnies!" for a couples circulate, but I think I'm the only one who still has deeply locked-in spoonerisms for all the other circulations. JB gave me a hug after one of the tips, and said thank you for being someone else to chant "reduce, reuse" after a recycle.

(and I got exactly once where I was courtesy turning with a person I actually knew well enough to finish the callback for Chain Down the Line. Everyone present knew "catch me, turn me!" but only once could I actually add out loud "chain me down". That turns out to be a fun one!)

I like it so much because it helps ground the calls real well, keeps them in my memory. The fact that I was running at probably 80% accurate after eight years of not dancing is pretty damn good! And it's worth noting that my 80% at dance continues to be a lot stronger than average.

But I don't love that squares still doesn't feel like _dancing_ to me. I'm charmed by a new-to-me callback for one of the weird swoopy calls - "it flows!". Because that call does flow! All the calls flow! Ted especially makes the movements all flow into each other because he's very good at what he does! Now why doesn't the dance floor feel like they're doing that?

Some of it is the need of the floor to compound the challenges. Do the calls faster, weirder, harder. I would love Weave the Ring as a figure, if it weren't inevitably limping sideways to the beat. I don't mind making things more complicated, until they inevitably seem to remove some of the _dance_ from the dance form. Successfully snapswitching can be great fun, but what if it is interrupting your flow, or making you forget where you're going and who you've become?

I understand what I'm getting into when I go to the MIT activity, it's very smart hotshot college students who have always been The Best at everything they've ever done. I am extremely familiar with this batch of people, and am sometimes one myself.

But gosh, that's not exactly what social dancing is _for_. If you are so into the mega-complex puzzle versions of the thing that you can't find pleasure or joy in the simple version instead, that's...a way to do things. But it's not the way _I_ want to do things.

Give me hexes and snap switching, but also give me a solid singing tip and the space to move in. Do hard things badly, but also _do simple things well_.

See you in the fall for the next graduation, maybe!

~Sor
MOOP!

Jungle Jim's

May. 12th, 2026 10:31 pm
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Today I came home which seemed to take 12 years instead of a few hours. Ha. I do believe I am incapable of being in the Cincinnati area and NOT stop at Jungle Jim's It's over 200,000 sqft of space with SO. Many. international isles, regular grocery store, toys, meat shop, cheese shop and cigar bar, beer and so much more.

So many choices. I need none of it. I want all of it. I got my usual red bean and lotus paste Japanese buns, cheese buns, halva and baklava (yeah 90% of this is either chocolate, baked goods and cheese). I was going to get kimchi but it leaked on my hands so I left it.

I got cookies from holland, speculaasbrokken, the size of my face! British and German chocolates. Stared at the dutch licorice but didn't get it. Also passed on the salmiakki (I think I tried it once and didn't like it), found fried strips of banana from Indonesia (OMG these are amazing). Apparently they had bought a ton of mint flavored violet crumbles because they were selling it for .99 a big ol' bag (bought two, wasn't sure I'd like because I don't need this much candy) Also found Vlasic dill pickle 'cheese' puffs. Ooo.

Found a garlic/asiago cheese bread (it's tasty but not as cheesy as I'd like). But oh man I lost my damn mind in the cheese cave. I got nearly a dozen types (I've opened several) The gorgonzola dolce vero wasn't as bluey as I'd like it. I found a gouda with wild nettles (haven't opened it yet) something called garlic noir (yes tastes like roasted garlic), a fig/honey goat cheese (so smooth it barely has a goat tang) smoked cheddar (always a fave) and two big blocks of gjetost which this is the only place I can find that cheese and they don't always have it. I was so excited.

Rocket is so mad at me, he came inside and said fuck you and went back outside. I haven't seen him since. Snort.

And my entire feed was flooded by this news PCOS has been renamed Polyendocrine metabolic ovarian syndrome.. NOW maybe we can stop going it's just women's problems, lose some weight and take birth control pills and break out of the misogyny and fucking research it. I love that one article said it's undiagnosed 70% of the time something I've been saying to my students for two decades because I have it. I make sure we discuss it and there is NO WAY it's only 5% which is what has been in the literature because there is almost always 2 other students with it in each class. (to be fair my current ob/gyn took it seriously but there isn't treatments because 'hormones make women too hard to study' oh bullshit)

Will it get studied? Probably not in America with RFK and Trump in charge of the medical arena and the moneys for science.

Have fannish 50 (with some recs and stuff)

The questions I got from kitarella, I'm using Buffy for this

Day 2: Favourite episode - So hard to pick one but if I had to chose it's either School Hard or Band Candy, still in the shows early days. One gives us Spike/Drusilla who are still my favorite couple in the entire show and the other gives us Giles being bad.

all questions under here )



a little thing called belief Hazbin Hotel

A Young Man's Fancy Stargate Atlantis

Regression The Owl House

Barely Coping Torchwood

Sect Leader Jiang's 31 step program to happiness
陈情令 | The Untamed

Camila Mama Week 2026 The Owl House

Finding Dusty Boxes Teen Wolf

No Judgement Hazbin Hotel

Kept Hazbin Hotel

House Cleaning Teen Wolf

Indulgence Hazbin Hotel

Hope. Law & Order: Criminal Intent

The Long Road Home The Amazing Digital Circus

Poisoned Kiss Hazbin Hotel

Ice Time Teen Wolf

Preparing for the Storm Stargate Atlantis

Sleepless, Waiting Torchwood

Local Transport Torchwood

Proper Storage 911

She Opens Her Eyes (She Closes Her Eyes) Hazbin Hotel

A Slow Quickie Hazbin Hotel

Snip, Snip, Snip Hazbin Hotel

Pillows Stargate Atlantis

Unexpected Trouble Teen Wolf

Like and Know. Hazbin Hotel

Friends Indeed Torchwood

Customer Is King Hazbin Hotel

Jaw-Dropping Hazbin Hotel

Aftershocks Stargate Atlantis

Escaping the Memories The Professionals

Daily Happiness

May. 12th, 2026 08:29 pm
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1. Carla's toe seems to be healing up really well. She went out for a short walk tonight (first time doing more walking than just around the house or going to the store since Friday) and it didn't hurt or make it bleed or anything.

2. I bought some black sesame honey spread today at work and it's so good! I had it on the last of the Costco croissants and the flavor of the croissant was a little too strong for it, but I think it would be just perfect on toast.

3. Chloe's such a cutie.

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Tree Crews, M, Garden, Lemon Tree

May. 12th, 2026 06:18 pm
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PG&E's tree crews have been here for the last couple of days. Mostly it has been ok, except for one crew member who managed to park completely blocking the driveway and then run his tracked vehicle up onto my circle skinning back the surface.  The second day I believe the same guy managed to ignore company protocol and drop a tree on the boundary line fence smashing it.  So much for their vaunted "professional" tree crews. 

M came home today, which is very nice. He is here for a month before abandoning me for the rest of the summer to be in lovely Alaska where it won't be hot like it is here. 

The garden loves the warm days and is growing fast. My soil amendments this year seem to be working well so far.  Planted the old lemon tree today. I bet it is a LOT happier in the ground.  I added a mix of compost and coconut coir around it to help keep the soil fertile and light. Looks like the compost was very much needed as there were almost no worms in the dirt.  I'll top it with a good thick layer of wood compost and horse manure in an attempt to keep building the soil.  That approach is certainly working on the trees at the top of the garden. Hardpan is turning fluffy up there.  One of my apples was yellow and sickly last year, but having a thick layer of horse manure compost around it this winter has turned the tree dark green and very happy. 

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The other book I finished during my voyage through the southwest was How to Love Your Daughter by Hila Blum, translated from Hebrew by Daniella Zamir. This was book [checks notes] #17 from the “Women in Translation” rec list. It’s about an estranged mother and daughter; as the mother peers through the windows of her adult daughter’s house from across the street, she ponders what went wrong in their formerly loving relationship.

How to Love Your Daughter is a cerebral kind of novel that swims back and forth between Yoella’s present, desperately reaching after the daughter who’s walked out of her life, and Yoella’s recollections of raising Leah.

The twists and turns of their relationship are subtle, almost too subtle. Both characters come off slightly neurotic, fussing about every minor interaction and seeming, to me, to invent problems where none really existed. In the end, it’s not so much a long-deteriorating relationship, which is what I expected, as it is Yoella making one decision that forever alters Leah’s perception of her.

“No one warned me my love could destroy her,” Yoella says about Leah at one point and that’s the core of it. Yoella adores her daughter, almost beyond reason. And it’s that very willingness to put Leah above everyone and everything else that eventually pushes Leah away from her, which is such a perfect tragedy.

I saw another review that said this book was both too long and too short, and I think there’s some truth to that. There are drawn out middle sections which don’t necessarily add much, but the ultimate break and subsequent efforts at reconciliation by Yoella don’t get as much room to breathe as might have benefitted them.

However, the ending is an exquisite microcosm of the tension of the whole novel, leaving you wondering about unreliable narrators and perceptions. Some people felt that Yoella gets off too easy—I would recommend rereading the section where Leah talks to Yoella about her reality/fantasy of Dennis writing her a letter.

I don’t know that either Yoella or Leah comes off as really sympathetic here, but they do come off very human, full of flaws and self-justifications and irrational reactions. And maybe sometimes it’s just human nature to create a tragedy where there didn’t have to be one.


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I originally hadn't been planning to go wait in line before the park opened, but with not being able to get any fast passes, I figured we'd better get in there early, so I went down to the park entrance around 8:30 for a 9am opening. It was super crowded, so I messaged Carla to join me ASAP, but I was wondering if she'd be able to find me in the crowd. Thankfully, while it was a huge mass of people at first, we were funneled into security lines and I was able to get in the line closest to where she would be coming in, so she was able to join me pretty easily.

Day two! I probably should have split this into two... )

Pelvic physiotherapy

May. 13th, 2026 01:25 am
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I have had my first pelvic physio appointment from the NHS since my traumatic birth in April 2004. It was... a very emotional experience. It was fine, and the physio was kind and respectful, but it was so strange to have this being taken seriously by a medical professional. There's going to be followup. Not just a sheet of exercises.

Afterwards I needed Rob to take the rest of the afternoon off work and we went to the Oxfam music shop and had lunch in Pret and ran some errands in Superdrug and Boots, until I felt kind of normal again, and then we came home and I did some sewing.

I really don't know how to articulate what the experience was like. Banal and life-changing.

Write Every Day: Day 12

May. 12th, 2026 05:06 pm
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Intro/FAQ


My check-in: A paragraph, so far.


Day 12: [personal profile] glinda,

Day 11: [personal profile] acorn_squash, [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] china_shop, [personal profile] cornerofmadness, [personal profile] dswdiane, [personal profile] glinda, [personal profile] sanguinity, [profile] sylvan_witch, [personal profile] the_siobhan, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] ysilme

Day 10: [personal profile] acorn_squash, [personal profile] badly_knitted, [personal profile] china_shop, [personal profile] cornerofmadness, [personal profile] dswdiane, [personal profile] goddess47, [personal profile] sanguinity, [personal profile] sylvanwitch, [personal profile] the_siobhan, [personal profile] trobadora, [personal profile] ysilme

More days )


When you check in, please use the most recent post and say what day(s) you’re checking in for. Remember you can drop in or out at any time, and let me know if I missed anyone!

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May. 12th, 2026 06:35 pm
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