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Dear Lady Reason,
About two years ago, I left my wife. I didn’t really mean to, or it wasn’t supposed to be permanent. I was on a road trip with another guy (she said I could go), but I forgot about a date I had made with her, so she sent her best friend to tell me it’s over. I was very depressed for a while and then decided to do everything I could to get her back. Basically I made myself over and became a new man! My friend (who is also my wife’s best friend) L made me see that I hadn’t been very reliable and I work hard now to keep my promises.
My problem is I don’t know what’s going on with the guy I mentioned before. When my wife returned her wedding ring I didn’t want to see him either, I blamed him a little bit (he said women like their husbands to give them space? But she was pretty pissed about me going away). Anyway while I was trying to get my life together I agreed to help out this girl (not a girlfriend, just a girl) by representing her in a legal dispute against her sister. And the sister turned out to be represented by my friend (the guy, I mean)! Obviously I couldn’t bring myself to hurt him or him me so we called off the trial and sent the sisters to arbitration. And it turns out he’d really missed me, we basically fell into each other’s arms and I felt like he really cared about me, you know?
I had to make one more attempt to patch things up with my wife, though, because I had promised my friend (L, the girl) I would, and she’d promised to help me. My wife agreed to take me back and honestly things have been great? She’s even been good about letting the lion (I have a new pet lion) sleep on the bed!
But I haven’t heard from my friend (the guy) since I went back to my wife and I really miss him. He hasn’t even written to L (who is his friend too). I thought he cared about me?
Also, and this is a different matter, sometimes I think my wife and L might be lovers. That sounds gross but I don’t mean I want to force them into threesomes or anything, I just, I don’t want them to have to lie to me.
What should I do?
Sincerely,
The Guy with the Lion
Dear Lion Guy,
What should you do? What should you do?
Lion Guy, you need a therapist. And a wake-up call. And probably a coming-out group. It sounds like you’re way more into your guy friend than he is into you. Also, what kind of lawyers abandon their clients to fall into each other’s arms?
Get a grip. And stop projecting on your wife and her friend (who is also your friend, and friends with your… whatever he is).
Sincerely,
Lady Reason
P.S. Please tell me you at least realise your thing for Guy Friend is, well, a Thing? A giant flaming homoerotic crush? Yes? You do realise that? Good. Consider telling your wife.
Citation: Le Chevalier au Lion (Chrétien de Troyes, 12th c French). W.W. Comfort's translatioon is here.
Dear Lady Reason,
About two years ago, I left my wife. I didn’t really mean to, or it wasn’t supposed to be permanent. I was on a road trip with another guy (she said I could go), but I forgot about a date I had made with her, so she sent her best friend to tell me it’s over. I was very depressed for a while and then decided to do everything I could to get her back. Basically I made myself over and became a new man! My friend (who is also my wife’s best friend) L made me see that I hadn’t been very reliable and I work hard now to keep my promises.
My problem is I don’t know what’s going on with the guy I mentioned before. When my wife returned her wedding ring I didn’t want to see him either, I blamed him a little bit (he said women like their husbands to give them space? But she was pretty pissed about me going away). Anyway while I was trying to get my life together I agreed to help out this girl (not a girlfriend, just a girl) by representing her in a legal dispute against her sister. And the sister turned out to be represented by my friend (the guy, I mean)! Obviously I couldn’t bring myself to hurt him or him me so we called off the trial and sent the sisters to arbitration. And it turns out he’d really missed me, we basically fell into each other’s arms and I felt like he really cared about me, you know?
I had to make one more attempt to patch things up with my wife, though, because I had promised my friend (L, the girl) I would, and she’d promised to help me. My wife agreed to take me back and honestly things have been great? She’s even been good about letting the lion (I have a new pet lion) sleep on the bed!
But I haven’t heard from my friend (the guy) since I went back to my wife and I really miss him. He hasn’t even written to L (who is his friend too). I thought he cared about me?
Also, and this is a different matter, sometimes I think my wife and L might be lovers. That sounds gross but I don’t mean I want to force them into threesomes or anything, I just, I don’t want them to have to lie to me.
What should I do?
Sincerely,
The Guy with the Lion
Dear Lion Guy,
What should you do? What should you do?
Lion Guy, you need a therapist. And a wake-up call. And probably a coming-out group. It sounds like you’re way more into your guy friend than he is into you. Also, what kind of lawyers abandon their clients to fall into each other’s arms?
Get a grip. And stop projecting on your wife and her friend (who is also your friend, and friends with your… whatever he is).
Sincerely,
Lady Reason
P.S. Please tell me you at least realise your thing for Guy Friend is, well, a Thing? A giant flaming homoerotic crush? Yes? You do realise that? Good. Consider telling your wife.
Citation: Le Chevalier au Lion (Chrétien de Troyes, 12th c French). W.W. Comfort's translatioon is here.