I get A Bit Particular about being Precise on this and adjacent topics. >_> (This is actually something we had cause to discuss recently, ha.)
Recent Discussions are absolutely related to why this thread bothered me so much, as I'm sure you can guess.
I have, for the past ... oh, let's say six years, had a conceptual trouble wherein the things *I* think of as primary in a "primary partner" are in no way akin to what most polyamorous people think of as primary-ness (in fact much more like what a monogamous not-moving-in-together-yet couple might look like). Generally hasn't been a problem between me and my actual partners, but dealing with other people? WEIRD.
And then, I'm now thinking perhaps I want, or should at least consider, something *more like* what most people think of as a primary partnership, and... i don't know, but the whole tone of this thread seemed like a 'don't even fucking bother'
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Date: 2019-02-26 11:39 am (UTC)Recent Discussions are absolutely related to why this thread bothered me so much, as I'm sure you can guess.
I have, for the past ... oh, let's say six years, had a conceptual trouble wherein the things *I* think of as primary in a "primary partner" are in no way akin to what most polyamorous people think of as primary-ness (in fact much more like what a monogamous not-moving-in-together-yet couple might look like). Generally hasn't been a problem between me and my actual partners, but dealing with other people? WEIRD.
And then, I'm now thinking perhaps I want, or should at least consider, something *more like* what most people think of as a primary partnership, and... i don't know, but the whole tone of this thread seemed like a 'don't even fucking bother'