5. Point! Also plenty of polyamorists would really like to mandate how their partners and metamours feel.
6, the 'owe' part, is definitely where I was coming unstuck. I have... screwed up a lot, hurt both myself and others, by the false chain of logic 'they don't owe > ergo i can't expect...'. I think polyamory rhetoric often reinforces that poor logic, rather than clearing it up. I also think what the poster was TRYING to say was that 'there is no universal set of doctrines on what A Boyfriend Owes A Hypothetical Partner', if his problem is with people knee-jerk reacting to the fact of open relationships.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
branchandroot
no subject
Date: 2019-02-25 03:02 pm (UTC)6, the 'owe' part, is definitely where I was coming unstuck. I have... screwed up a lot, hurt both myself and others, by the false chain of logic 'they don't owe > ergo i can't expect...'. I think polyamory rhetoric often reinforces that poor logic, rather than clearing it up. I also think what the poster was TRYING to say was that 'there is no universal set of doctrines on what A Boyfriend Owes A Hypothetical Partner', if his problem is with people knee-jerk reacting to the fact of open relationships.
7. huhhh... yes.
10. FAIR POINT