Like re 6, at this point A & I won't... object if people describe us as "primary partners"? But also we won't... actually reach for that designation ourselves, and won't be entirely comfortable with it, in large part because it does have connotations of off-the-rack-ness, of "this is what a boyfriend does", where actually we've... ended up owning a house together, and we've ended up at a place where we routinely prioritise each other and where if we're in different places (for reasons other than one of us having a date with someone else!) when we go to sleep we routinely call and chat about our days for a bit and say goodnight, but we've explicitly negotiated as much of it as we possibly could, and when we run into assumptions we're making that haven't been negotiated we try to Fix That. So, yes, I have a lot of sympathy with the underlying point; I think it was poorly phrased, though, and I get A Bit Particular about being Precise on this and adjacent topics. >_> (This is actually something we had cause to discuss recently, ha.)

(& it always feels weird saying this kind of thing in public because of the implication that I do think other people off-the-rack their relationships by default, which isn't actually the case. I just... am very aware that I do a kind of atypical amount of Talking, and am similarly v aware from advice columns and observing e.g. r/relationships et cet that a lot of people do enter relationships with a whooooooooole bunch of assumptions about What Dating Means Then that just never get discussed until a mismatch blows up and hurts everyone...)