... okay scratch that I just got to "It's unhealthy to *need* someone. To want them, to love them, to enjoy their company? Absolutely. But if you need your partner to function and to feel okay with the world, that's not healthy." and WE ARE AN INTERDEPENDENT SOCIAL SPECIES AND I AM DISABLED. (And the nature of my care needs means that a lot of them are, in fact, best met by a partner, and HEY LOOK AT THAT this is something I negotiate up-front.)