The War on Christmas

Dec. 8th, 2016 10:32 pm
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So I work retail and I chose to use "Happy Holidays," as my parting words and occasionally I get snap-back on it... Had someone ask me "If [I] don't say Merry Christmas anymore?"

Well I do... if I have any indication they celebrate Christmas, if they are buying a Christmas card, a Christmas movie, if they wish me a Merry Christmas... I'll Merry Christmas to them, otherwise I just feel like being inclusive. It's not the store's policy; it's my own personal policy.

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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. I moved for my husband but can’t find work in my field — and now I have a job offer in my home state

I grew up in the midwest, and I moved down to the middle of nowhere in New Mexico to be with my husband after I graduated college. The first year I was here was interesting. I got a job in the loan industry. It paid okay for the area, not great but it paid the bills and put food on the table. After the year, I quit due to the stress and horrible management causing me major health issues. After I resigned, I received a job offer from my home state working with children. I discussed it with my husband and he told me to take it; that way I could visit family and recharge (since I was not in the best of health). I spent the summer getting better, visiting family, and enjoying my job.

After the summer was up, I traveled back home. As soon as I got back, I filled out many applications and had interviews. This is where the sad part starts. The interviews went really well and the managers liked me, but many did not want to hire me due to my education. (I have a four-year degree in history and social science) They thought I was overqualified due to that. This frustrates me to no end. One manager only interviewed me as a back-up plan; if one of his people quit, he would call me and ask me to fill in. Another one sent in all my paperwork to the area manager but can’t hire me because they didn’t have a store manager.

I have been out of a job for three months and money is getting tight. Yesterday I received a email from a company in my home state wanting me to work for them. This is where I need advice/help. My husband has an awesome job that pays pretty well. He also loves working there. He has been applying to jobs all over the country to be closer to a bigger city so I can start my career. However, he hasn’t gotten a job yet and it’s been close to a year and a half. This job that was offered to me is my dream job and it’s in my career field. Do I go for my dream job and have my husband move to my home state with me or should I stay here in the middle of nowhere with no job while he remains at his? Please help. I am at a standstill and don’t know what to do.

Oh, I’m sorry — this is really hard. Ultimately, this is a question for your marriage. It sounds like you and your husband need to figure out where it makes sense for the two of you to live. If you won’t be able to find a job in your field where you currently are (which sounds like may be the case), do the two of you want to move somewhere that you can? Or is it okay for you to resign yourself to not getting work in your field long-term? Is he willing to move for now since you moved for him before and gave his city a shot? What are your husband’s job prospects in the new city? And how do the two of you want to balance all these factors out? Ultimately it’s about the trade-offs the two of you decide to make as a couple.

The job-related piece of this that I can advise on is that the longer you don’t work in your field, the harder it will be to find work in your field. So you probably have a relatively limited window of time to really pursue it, if that’s what you want to do.

2. Recruiting by text message

I have a Google Voice number that I use for job hunting. I am not currently job hunting — I love my job — but I also believe in always taking the meeting/interview/convo if possible, because you never know what will happen next.

Earlier this week, I got a text message from a recruiting company asking me if I was interested in a job that I was actually completely unqualified for — the recruiter had clearly done a keyword scan for, say, “teapot usability” and since both words showed up, he assumed I was now a teapot usability expert. I replied that I was not qualified for the position.

Today he texted back and asked what I was looking for. I replied that at this time I was not looking to make a move, which is 100% true. But, again, normally I’m happy to have a quick convo — except that 1) he hadn’t read my resume and 2) the TEXT MESSAGES.

I would think it completely appropriate to have a text conversation with a recruiter with whom I already had a relationship, especially things like confirming I’d finished an interview, or other quick transactional notes. But I can’t see doing this as the regular course of business as part of job hunting. I am An Old, but I work in technology and have plenty of text conversations on a daily basis. Am I just being old-fashioned or is this the new direction of recruiting and I’m going to have to get used to it in order to be competitive?

I hope not. I think you just ran into a weird and overly cavalier recruiter, of which there are plenty. He was sloppy about reading your resume, and he’s sloppy about how he communicates.

Also, some people are way more reliant on texting in all situations than others, and I think some of those people over time lose sight of the fact that not everyone likes to have lengthy business-related text conversations.

3. Being laid off right after relocating for work

This summer my husband was told that the company he had worked for for 10 years was closing his plant and relocating it to Houston. He was among the few employees that were offered to keep their jobs and move with the plant. The company would provide a substantial relocation package including all closing costs, moving costs, and a one month extra salary for expenses. No raises would be given and as a matter of fact, at the time the entire US operations had been forced to take a temporary ten percent pay cut that had started in February.

We didn’t want to move. We had a teenager going into his junior year of high school and had a great life and house. But my husband is over 50 years old and we realized finding a new job would be difficult so we accepted the offer. So mid-August I quit my job and we moved.

Fast forward three and a half months and he gets laid off. We were thoroughly shocked. He had to sign an agreement saying that if he resigned in the next two years, we had to pay back all if the relocation fees but what about if they lay him off? Now we are in a new town that is not our home away from our friends and family. Even with the relocation package this has not been a cheap move for us. Is there any way of getting them to move us back? It just seems so unfair! I know the old saying about how life isn’t fair but you’ve got to be kidding me!

That’s horrible. He can definitely try to negotiate for some moving costs, but whether or not they agree is likely to depend on (a) how guilty they feel, so he should try to appeal to their human decency when he points out what happened, and (b) whether they’re worried he has potential grounds to see for anything (like discrimination or harassment). Severance packages are often quite negotiable when one of those things is the case, especially the second one.

I’m not sure if you were also worried that you might be on the hook for the relocation expenses, but you won’t be. That’s only for if your husband left voluntarily.

4. Prospective employer told me that I no longer seem interested in the job

I interviewed for a job position before Thanksgiving, and sent a follow up email a couple days ago asking about the status of the job. I got an email back stating “that it seemed I was no longer interested in the job”. Panicked that I may have missed a job offer letter I scourged my email to find…nothing. I’m not sure what I could have done in this scenario? Or even how to respond back.

It sounds like a miscommunication. Maybe they sent you an email or left you a voicemail that somehow got lost in the ether. (Or maybe they think they did but they didn’t actually do it.) I’d send this back: “I’m still very interested! Your email makes me wonder if you’d tried to contact me, but I don’t have any missed calls or emails from you so I’m not sure what happened that made you think I’d lost interest. I’d still love to be considered for the job and to talk with you further.”

5. Is this company brushing me off?

Several years ago I applied for a position at a company located right down the street from my house. I received an in person interview that seemed to go incredibly well. Several days later however, I received a rejection email telling me “thanks for applying, but we will be moving forward with other candidates at this time.” And to “feel free to reapply in the future.”

I have reapplied, but have never been invited back for another in-person interview. The first time I reapplied, I was invited to an out of state job fair (in spite of the position I applied for being right down the street.) There was no way to RSVP to this job fair. I’m not sure there was any connection between not attending the job fair and not being selected for an interview, but needless to say I didn’t get the job. The second time I reapplied, once again their actions baffled me, I was invited to a phone screening interview with someone from out of state. I’m kind of getting a message that “we don’t really want you to work here, and even though you feel you’d be perfect for the position please take the hint and move on.” Am I right to perceive this are they in fact giving me the brush off or am I reading too much into what’s becoming standard practices even though they don’t always make sense to the local job seeker?

The out-of-state job fair thing is weird, but I wouldn’t read anything into the phone interview being with someone from another state. If that’s the person who’s doing the phone interviews for the position, it makes sense that that’s what would happen — and they’re not going to invite you to skip the phone screen and interview in-person at that stage instead, so the fact that you’re right down the street wouldn’t really factor in.

In general, employers are very comfortable rejecting people because they have to do it all the time. They don’t offer phone interviews to people as a way to brush them off. If they want to brush you off, they’d just reject you!

I moved for my husband but can’t find work in my field, recruiting by text message, and more was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

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Posted by Sovay

My poem "The Firebird's Revenge" has been accepted by The Cascadia Subduction Zone. It was written for rose_lemberg in April and is about more or less exactly what it says.

Tonight when derspatchel and I were buying groceries at the Stop & Shop on McGrath Highway, the cashier—a black woman with braids, working later than we were shopping—told me she loved my lapel pin and asked where it came from. I said I was really glad and gave her the store name on Etsy. She said she wished I had a spare; I would have given it to her if I had. I think if seeing it makes anyone feel better, then it's doing the right thing.

We made quiche for dinner, with ham and black olives and two kinds of grated cheese. Autolycus positioned himself strategically beneath the counter to snaffle up any falling bits of extra-sharp cheddar or gouda. "Little scavenger!" I apostrophized him as he leapt onto the counter itself and began to Pac-Man his way toward the paper plate of cheese waiting to be stirred into the custard. "Oh, my little hagfish, no." He made another try for the completed quiche when it was on the dining room table, but we removed him. For dessert, we did make Rice Krispie treats with Penzeys Ceylon cinnamon and they are delicious. We added a heaping teaspoon of cinnamon to the three tablespoons of butter when they were melting in the saucepan and then stirred in the ten-ounce package of marshmallows and the result was not heavily spiced, but rather warmly, and we let them cool and cut them up into squares and then I ate three and it is mostly the fact that it is now too late for me to eat anything that is keeping the rest alive. There's still tomorrow.

Mythic Delirium has posted their 2016 award eligibility round-up, including my short story "The Trinitite Golem" in Clockwork Phoenix 5. Go read the year's archive and nominate stuff you like! At least good art came out of this year.
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Posted by Vivian Kane

Last year, Sofia Vergara's dead-eyed weasel of an ex decided to deal with his breakup in a weird, gross, very public way: he filed a complaint to earn custody of the former couple's frozen embryos, then proceeded to grab at every headline possible, including writing a lengthy op-ed about the process in the New York Times. (Side note: fuck you, New York Times.)

At the time, Courtney perfectly articulated what this legal battle was really about. It wasn't about religion, or fatherhood, or a "right to live." It was about control and about being super butthurt that your ex was marrying Joe Manganiello. Which I get. If my ex were marrying a Magic Mike star, I'd be pretty insecure, too. Most of us would. But most of us wouldn't sink as low as possible and attempt to hold some frozen cells hostage all for the purpose of needing all the attention in the room.

And now, after more than a year and a half of letting us forget about his miserable self, Nick Loeb just upped the disgusting to an impossible (god, I wish it were impossible) degree. He's now filed a lawsuit on behalf of those frozen embryos, which he's given the names Isabella and Emma.

To be clear, just because you give a petri dish a name, that does not make it your daughter. Also, Vergara's lawyer released a statement clarifying that those named test tubes "are not embryos, but rather frozen fertilized ova." He also uses the term "pre-embryos." I tried to figure out what the difference was and came up short, so forgive my inaccurate language. If anyone cares to explain the difference below, I definitely am curious.

But, curious and confusing as this may be, one thing is crystal-fucking-clear: this is despicable, and infuriating, and terrifying.

First of all, the lawsuit is filed in Louisiana, an historically pro-life state. In fact, it was named the #1 pro-life state six years in a row by Americans United For Life before being unseated this year by Oklahoma. (Congratulations on hating women the most, Oklahoma!) That in itself is scary because, in this time of potential doom for reproductive rights, this is not a court case we want to see in a state that continues to view women's rights as secondary to those of a collection of cells.

The move to Louisiana makes sense, though, since the California judge ruled in favor of Vegara last year after, among other bullshittery, Vergara pointed out that Loeb had paid for the abortions of two ex-girlfriends he'd impregnated. Weird, considering Loeb is just a super moral guy who views all life definitely equally from the moment of lab-based-conception and has absolutely nothing else to gain here.

Oh, except that the grounds of the lawsuit are based in a trust that Loeb and Vergara reportedly set up for their future children (not current children-- again, giving them names and repeatedly calling them babies as Loeb is doing does not make them such). Loeb is proclaiming that by not being born, these fertilized ova are being denied their inheritance.

There it is. The money. Always follow the money, they say. No fucking way does Nick Loeb actually want to raise these children. I'm not inside his head (thank GOD), but dollars to fancy-ass Beverly Hills cronuts he'd end up getting child support for getting these things implanted in a surrogate and born. Not to mention headlines, ATTENTION (his clear true motivator), probably a book, maybe a reality show. And then there's that trust. Sure, that's in place for the "daughters," but is there anyone here not rolling their eyes at the idea that it wouldn't also end up at least partially in Loeb's grabby hands?

Add to that the fact that the embryos' trustee, James Charbonnet, is also listed as a plaintiff in this case, and yeah, okay, keep telling me about how Loeb is basically an IRL Harrison Ford character just trying to get his family back.

This isn't about life. It's not about religion or morals or family. It's about money. Of course, it's also about ego and control and how dare that woman be more more famous than him and move on so publicly, but mostly, yeah. Money.

All of that, for any lawyer-types reading, let's place under the big banner of ALLEGEDLY. (That covers my butt, right?) Obviously, I'm speculating.

Except it's definitely about money.

If you want to, you can read the whole detailed rundown of this awfulness over on Page Six.

The origin of Two-Face's coin

Dec. 8th, 2016 11:48 pm
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As per All-Star Batman (not to be confused with All-Star Batman and Robin)...

Heads I win, scratched up heads, I also win )

1 page from issue 3, approximately 2 from issue 4.

Read "The Sharpest Dose of Reality"

Dec. 8th, 2016 11:02 pm
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"The Sharpest Dose of Reality" is now open for microfunding. Pain's Gray and Shiv are going to play together!  Won't this be fun?

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Dec. 8th, 2016 08:52 pm
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I like snuggling.

Just satin'.

In Memoriam

Dec. 8th, 2016 08:19 pm
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  • John Glenn.  
  • Greg Lake, of Emerson, Lake and Palmer (later Emerson, Lake and Powell) and King Crimson

Chapter 26!

Dec. 9th, 2016 03:52 am
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It's up!

Also, looking at the schedule--it would appear that the story, as currently scheduled, would only run over into January by one week. So for the last week of the year, we'll get double helpings of the story, and wrap it at the end of the year. It seems tidier. And also...well, I kinda feel like I can't do much to make the year end on a positive note, but by god, I can do this!

I'll scramble to get my e-book versions together so they'll be available in early January too. (Patreon sponsors will get access to free versions, because you've made the whole thing possible! And I can't tell you how grateful I am for that. It's been really awesome!)
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No keen squid cravings today, who knew. But I could murder a salmon filet. If I had one and a pan and a knife om om om.

But I don't.

Recipe Friday
Something I cooked recently:
Pistachio and Raspberry Brownies

This recipe, guys, seriously - I have to stop falling for untested, ingredient-substituting recipes, because I am a sucker. There's cocoa powder in the list of ingredients and not in the procedure. The bake time is wrong, wrong, wrong - I don't think they tested it with eggs instead of chia seeds. It needs to cook longer and slower than they say. And with some foil over the top to stop the nuts from burning. I read the comments before I baked, saw that people had them come out runny, and dumped in a bunch more almond meal and the mysterious cocoa (which from the photo looks like they made some kind of glaze out of? IDK) until I got a suitable looking texture, then baked.

Having said that, they taste great and seem to be keeping great. And I'll make them again. Because sucker.

Something I'm idly planning to cook in the future:
The River Cottage’s Vegetable Bouillon (a.k.a. Souper Mix)

In my eternal search for stock I don't really want to make and skim and ugh, this seems like a flavour base type thing that I could try. With no garlic or onion. (Leeks are so great! I eat all the leeks!)

Something I have concrete plans to cook soon:
Random balls of varying degree of FODMAP suitability and dubious health eating advice:
Pumpkin No Bake Energy Bites
Peanut Butter Oatmeal Energy Bites
Choc Crackle Peanut Protein Balls


Who am I kidding? I'm gonna buy a big bag of potatoes, make a ton of gnocchi and this:
Focaccia Bari-style.

That is why I bought one of your fancy American ricers after all. Heh heh heh heh. Not sure why the sinister laugh but it feels right. Probably because I read this: These 25 tweets from someone who is “definitely not a wolf pretending to be a man” are comedy genius


Yes. Those damn sugars.

Ghosts of the past

Dec. 9th, 2016 12:14 pm
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I ran into a school friend while buying a coffee today. This happens with this individual every few months - she works a few buildings away on the other side of Oak Lawn. This time was a bit better than last time, because we managed a bit of disjointed conversation.

But it is so weird. I'm effectively talking to a stranger, but to one I have a huge shared history with. Talking with her is almost like trying to talk to a ghost - the friends that we were trying to talk through us. 

And we were reasonably close. We went to the same primary school (although I don't remember her before the last year or two), and other than the times I was away, the same high school; we ended up in the same areas of student politics. We hung out in the same amorphous group of young women -- about 20 of us, in two main subgroups (she was in the same one I was, but then not the same sub-sub-group, because I was music and she wasn't). I spent years knowing the intimate details of her life. Her whole family came to my first wedding. Her mother is almost family (and was there at times when my mother wasn't, including very useful advice about relationships). I've maintained some contact with the family because her older brother is part of my extended social network. And yet, I almost don't know her. There is just this obligation to not ignore her in these situations.

And I wonder whether the weirdness comes from me, or if I've somehow been the kind of person she chooses to distance herself from. And I'm a little sad, because I would like to know this person that she has become. 
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Although I do give them points for making the reindeer look like actual caribou, not Rankin-Bass-esque white-tailed deer standing in snow.

Early in the episode, the plucky kid heroes arrive home, and one of them goes "Look! Our dads are bringing in the tree!" Smash-cut to two clean-cut men, one black & one white, carrying a giant fir.

I was briefly so excited. Casual same-sex couple in a children's show, and not just any children's show, but a Seuss adaptation?!

...and then the moms showed up, and eventually it sank in that these weren't the divorced moms spending Christmas with their exes and the kids to round out the blended family, these were just two unrelated heterosexual couples, having Christmas dinner in the same house for some reason.

Which makes it all the more annoying that the Cat (voiced by Martin Short) is played with the most exaggerated, campiest, lispiest voice you could imagine.

Sigh. I'm gonna go look up shippy Cat/Grinch fanart, just to cleanse my soul.

stuff done: Saturday-Thursday

Dec. 8th, 2016 10:29 pm
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1. Completed five more NYS tax training modules, go me. \o/

2. Bought a set of non-denominational holiday cards for next year so I won't have to worry about that next fall. It is always a bit of a struggle to find something that A) includes enough cards in the set, B) doesn't look hideous, and C) isn't ruinously expensive. I can get actual Christmas-themed ones every other year, since a set of twenty leaves me with a few leftovers, but I send cards to a few people who specifically aren't Christian and don't celebrate Christmas, so non-denominational is important.

3. Took recycling bins to the curb for pickup on Sunday night.

more items under the cut )

And now I should probably take some Benadryl and go to bed, because I have a long day tomorrow and I never sleep well the night before a trip.

You’re Getting Warmer

Dec. 9th, 2016 03:00 am
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Posted by BD

Farm Store | MI, USA

(In the time leading up to Thanksgiving each fall, our store carries supplies to cook a turkey: the fryer itself, peanut oil, etc. Last season a gentleman came in looking for a ‘cooker’ and I assumed this is what he wanted. I took him over to the shelf and this is how that conversation went:)

Me: “Here we are sir, turkey fryers!”

Customer: “No, no, this isn’t it. I mean, these are nice but the ones you had last year are what I’m looking for.”

Me: “These are the same style we carry every year. How was the other one different?”

Customer: “Well it didn’t use oil at all. Just two sticks.”

Me: “Two sticks?”

Customer: “Yeah, it was just a plate with two vertical sticks.”

Me: “Umm… I have to admit I’m a bit lost on this one. I’ve worked here for five years and the oil-type is the only turkey fryer we’ve had.”

Customer: “No, no. I’d like the style you had last year.”

Me: “Well, if you’d like to leave your information I’d be happy to check into special ordering you something. So it’s a flat plate and…?”

Customer: “Okay. So, it’s a flat plate with a cord sticking out of it, and two round tubes that stick straight up. I’m sorry, but this isn’t a pretty subject…”

Me: “Go ahead…”

Customer: *lowered voice* “Well, you can do two turkeys at once on it. You stick the tube up the turkey’s a**, plug it in, and it cooks it.”

Me: “…”

(After a few more moments of awkward conversation, I came to the conclusion the customer had made Thanksgiving dinner last year with a boot warmer.)

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Dec. 8th, 2016 10:46 pm
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Hello! My name is Zhelana, and I'm looking for friends.

I enjoy the SCA, photography, writing, collecting stuffed animals, playing with my four animals, watching sports, swimming, history, Judaism, and watching movies.

I'd love to make any friends who talk about their real life, and update regularly :)

Prompt for 2016-12-09

Dec. 9th, 2016 11:50 am
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Today's prompt is "the one thing that I can never tell you about".


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